While I was busy with my system implementation checklist, I can’t help but to listen to few female’s colleague’s conversation. Her kid’s has just finished seating for standard 1 placement exam. Yup, standard 1. The country’s education system is getting ridiculous. Even pre-school has exams!
I was once a kiasu mom too (still kot?), proud that ma kid did well with their studies. Wake up call was when my eldest whispered to me not to post their academic achievement in social media . ‘Ibu, would you still be proud of me if I don’t get straight A’s’ and he added by saying ‘..have you ever think how other kids who don’t excel in their study feel about all this’.
I have begun criticizing about the education system since my primary school days. Yup, I was not a brilliant , was never a teacher’s pet coz I wasn’t a cute kid (though I end up to be a cun makcik *perasan*). Back in my school, the pupils were divided into classes based on results. Matters worse when they also arranged the seating position based on it. Hence the clever getting cleverer, the less smart doesn’t improve much. I am always amongst the last 10 in a class of 40 pupil ;p Even though I wasn’t really brilliant, my grades were sufficient enough for me to stay in the first out of 6 classes. And this lasted till Standard 6.
Year end is the time where parents starts posting pictures of their children’s receiving the award for the excellent year end achievement. I take pride that I reward my kids for their effort, not for their results. Some may say I would do the same too if my kids were to excel in their studies. Believe me, my three ding dong are way too smart compares to their mom and dad. Their result is enough to cause damage to my wallet if I were to reward them by number of A’s obtained.
I will always leave my work behind and provide morale support when my children are seating for their big exam. Recently when Haziq sat for his big PT3 exam, the parents will gather at one corner of the school while waiting for the kids. During the conversation, one of the mom was telling me how much she has invested for the extra tuition and additional classes to ensure the daughter score with flying colours. I mean seriously???,That much$$$$$ I wonder what goes on in certain households where parents apply pressure on their children to do well in their studies. Welcome to the exam oriented nation.
Are these parents really worried that their children will become failures, judging them from their test scores at this age?
Or is it that you are immensely pressured by family and friends that their children are doing better than yours, and you're embarrassed when they ask you about your child's studies?
What is wrong with you?
I may have not raised my children well. And ‘yes’ I am against boarding school. Whilst parents are in a competition for the prestigious local boarding school..like MRSM, TKC, STAR, Tunku Jaafar etc, I don’t even have to be in that race. Some may say I’m not providing the best for my children but I’m giving them all the freedom (konon lah ;p)…and my priority is to instill the Islamic knowledge for them since I don’t have the kind of opportunity when I was their age. And yes, I look up to parents who sent their kids to religious school like Maahad & all, ( why Nana didn't send anak sana eh? errr... I am having ‘detachment’ issue to let my kids go ;p )
I hope and pray none of my children will have this mindset of pressuring their kids to excel in their studies. Because if that happens, no matter how successful they may be, I will still think I've failed.
I’m going to love my children for what they are, and not what other people expect them to be.
I am already contented with your 6A’s from the PT3. I know you are very upset that for the first time you didn’t get straight A’s. But that is life my son.
To Nazurah, & Hazim congratulations for the many A’s & top 20 among 240++ students in the final exam.
Alhamdulillah that I am still blessed with many A’s despite that I don’t have to pressure the kids.
Oh wait. There I go bragging like other parents.