Off mating season?

Imej ihsan google

I've blogged about this couple of years back, just have to say this..., the 'season' is on again..!!

A recent tele-conversation with a friend goes like this...

'..Ok, bye for now..send my regards to your missus'..

'..me & missus are no longer toghether Nana!, we've got divorce last week!'

'errr...*speechless*'

My thinking was, wah! he was saying it happily.. sukanye dia! (2 months after that, an accidental bump in a photographer website explained the whole thing..) Off late many marriages ended tragically.. it hurts, because those are the people I know.. :(.. and it scares the hell out of me.

Let's go through the list of common reason that came to these 2 ears. (Ini adalah pendapat peribadi semata-mata, tiada dipengaruhi mana-mana pihak):-

1) Irreconcilable differences

Hard to accept, why? sebab bercinta macam nak rak bertahun-tahun, marriage last when the little kid only started teething?

2) 'Third Party'

There is a saying 'cinta itu buta' ... Yup, love overcomes any obstacle along the journey. But one has never think that they are that mangkuk obstacle for other people. Why must you be selfish & break a happy family lar?

3) Career?

OOohhh please, ... why must you neglect your family to pursue this? For God swt's sake my friend, please do think of our children. (ker, alasan jer diaorang nih?)

4) Money$$$$$

Errr... my money is my money? your money is my money? (Abg Joned, I love you!)

5) Long distance relationship

It works for some couple, which actually strenghten their love, but for some it's an opportunity, an opening to meet 'new' faces which resulting the loved one back home badly hurts :(

6) Late bloomers

Well some of them tak sempat 'har-ya' during the younger days kot, or probably because of financial stabilility at this age, enable one to afford to those 'happening' places. Lupa dunia, lupa loved ones? You'd be surprised how some still have the energy boogeeying all night long and work the next day.

7) Fate

Yup, overcome this one statement that he was 'fate' to remarry (but part yg divorce yang lama bukan lak 'fate'? Haih, susah nak cakap.)

8) Salah kita

Yup...contohnye; for wifey like me yang not be able to cook, jaga makan minum hari-hari, tak manja2 to our other half (Hi sayang!)~I was told if we do not take care of our loved ones kang orang lain lak yang amik kesempatan (alasan...)

Those are among the common one yang dengar ESPECIALLY number (2).. (Yup Wani: Kekasihku gelap ok but kekasih gelapku tu mmg cari nahas)... but how true it is I wont know, because we are the outsider je..

Partly happy to see the single mother and father moved on happily..but also sedih to see some values disappear entah ke mana for some; but my concern is more towards the children :(

Few of them even 'moved on' even merrier compared to when they were married. Alhamdulillah..

Kita merancang, Tuhan SWT menentukan...,takdir. I pray for this marriage to last forever, and for my hubby to be my soul mate dunia akhirat.. (I thayang you..mmuah!) We cant beat the fate, but at least we can try to hold on, to be patience, to be strong to defend our marriage.

For my friends, praying for the best for all of you.. (like most of them said 'blessing in disguise'),,..and for those who have been given a second chance..may this one last forever, InsyaAllah.

Make love people, not war!

p/s: a tip from Fadhil@Godale to male friends 'bila rasa macam nak menggatal, ingat muka anak, it will automatically put you off and bring you back to reality'... yer ker?